EP 492: How to Heal Old Wounds With Exes, With Venus

In this insightful coaching session, Christine Hassler helps Venus navigate deep emotional wounds related to past relationships. Venus struggles with feelings of being replaced and not being chosen, which stem from childhood neglect, abuse, and enmeshment. She finds herself caught in patterns of comparison and pain over an ex possibly moving on with someone else. Together, Christine and Venus unpack these core wounds, working toward reclaiming empowerment, self-worth, and emotional sovereignty.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck in the past, struggled with self-worth after a breakup, or wants to heal old relationship wounds at the root level.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you still emotionally attached to an ex, even though you know you were incompatible?
• Do you struggle with feelings of being replaced or not chosen?
• Have childhood wounds influenced your relationships, making love feel like dependency or codependency?
• Are you trying to “pray away” pain instead of working through it?
• How can you shift from a fear-based desire for validation to true self-empowerment?

 

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• The pain of feeling replaced often stems from deeper childhood wounds of neglect or not being chosen.
• Healing is a process that requires presence, patience, and self-compassion—there’s no quick fix.
• Breaking patterns of comparison and self-judgment is crucial for self-empowerment.
• Taking up space, moving energy through the body, and developing personal sovereignty help break cycles of emotional pain.
• The shift from being disempowered to reclaiming choice is the core of deep healing.

 

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize disempowering thought patterns and actively redirect them.
• Use empowering language—instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” reframe it as, “What am I choosing at this moment?”
• Engage in movement and expression—dance, sing, walk, or scream into a pillow to release stored emotional energy.
• Practice self-acknowledgement—celebrate progress rather than focusing on how far you still need to go.
• Trust the process—deep healing doesn’t happen overnight, but consistent efforts make a lasting impact.

 

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