The Psychology of your 20s 228. The psychology of limerence
Sep 6, 2024
Dive into the perplexing world of limerence, where unreciprocated love feels like an obsession. Explore the four stages of this emotional rollercoaster and how it intertwines with attachment styles and mental health. Discover the addictive nature of these feelings and why breaking free can feel impossible. Practical tips for moving on are shared, alongside discussions on fostering healthier relationships. Additionally, learn about the unexpected link between gut health and emotional well-being, making it a multifaceted journey of self-discovery.
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Limerence Defined
- Limerence is an involuntary, all-consuming obsession with someone who doesn't reciprocate those feelings.
- It closely resembles love but carries a melancholic undertone of unrequitedness.
Origins of Limerence
- Psychologist Dorothy Tennov coined "limerence" in 1979 after interviewing 500 people about love.
- Limerence blends infatuation, lovesickness, and passionate love, often mistaken for reciprocated romantic love.
The Power of Unattainable Love
- The unattainable nature of the desired person fuels limerence, making it more powerful.
- Occasional positive reinforcement keeps hope alive, hindering the ability to move on.