Authentic Kat & Steve - He thought his best years were behind him
I asked Steve how he feels about turning 50 this year, and we ended up speaking about something much deeper than age.
Years ago, when Steve first came to see me as a client at 39, he told me he felt like his best years were behind him. He thought the good years had already happened. That the window had passed. That life from there was maybe going to be more of the same, or a slow decline into responsibility, routine and getting through.
And then the last decade became the best decade of his life.
We spoke about what changed, what opened, and how Steve sees the last 10 years now. He shared that he attributes so much of that shift to our relationship, to the way we have grown together, communicated, challenged each other, built a life, had fun and kept choosing something more honest.
This conversation is about ageing, but it is also about the stories we tell ourselves about time. The belief that we are too late. That the best has already happened. That because one chapter felt heavy, the next one cannot surprise us.
Steve’s story is a reminder that life can still expand. Love can still deepen. Joy can still return. You can meet yourself differently at 40, 50 and beyond. You can look back at a version of yourself who thought the best was over and realise, actually, life was just getting ready to show you something else.
This episode is a tender, funny and honest conversation about love, ageing, growth, partnership and the possibility that your best years might not be behind you at all.