

REAL, RAW, RELATABLE
Kat John
G'day, I'm Kat John, Authenticity Coach, Author and Keynote Speaker. Only real talk lives here - no highlight reels. Through sharing real guidance, raw truths and relatable stories, this podcast is here to help you navigate the ongoing dance between your real and true selves, one step at a time. New episodes are released fortnightly Monday's. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts, and please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it.
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Aug 10, 2025 • 30min
To the part in you that won't let up, listen up
I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter.The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing, I must be failing.This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelled by fear, but by presence. Substance. I speak to what it’s like to walk away from the version of yourself that hustles for love, success, and validation and how confronting it can be to choose peace over performance.If you’ve ever felt like you’re only as good as what you achieve, if rest makes you feel guilty, if part of you still believes you have to earn your enoughness, this one’s for you.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Aug 3, 2025 • 40min
Kat & Steve - Step-parenting and the change of family dynamics
Steve and I share about the reality of step-parenting and family dynamics, especially what happens when a step-parent enters a home that already has its rhythm, its ways, its rules.Even when you try so hard not to disrupt the dynamic, the truth is, it changes. Because it has to. There's no way around it. We talk about:How the dynamic shifts when a new adult comes into the mixWhy it’s so bloody hard even when your intentions are goodThe messiness of getting it wrong, being misunderstood, and still showing up anywayThe importance of self-awareness, communication, and staying on the same team This isn’t a polished story. It’s real life. The kind that takes time, patience, and a lot of checking yourself. If you’re in a blended family, a new relationship with kids in the mix, or navigating the slow road of becoming a unit, this one’s for you.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jul 27, 2025 • 33min
Real talk about money - what is 'your' enough?
In this episode, I take you back to a question that unraveled a lot for me: What is enough? Especially when it comes to money.A few years ago, I was chasing the magic million. I thought hitting that number would mean I’d made it as a coach. As if that was the only metric that mattered.Then I stopped and I asked what’s actually enough for me?That question cracked something wide open. I started looking at my money differently. I got right up close to it, every single detail. I sat down with a spreadsheet and went through my finances with the kind of fine-tooth comb you use when you’ve had lice. No stone left unturned.I calculated what it really costs for me to live on planet Earth, from groceries to business expenses, house payments, taxes, ETFs, donations, subscriptions, clothes, the lot. I factored in how Steve and I have set up our money together and got clear on what my version of enough actually looks like.What I found was sobering. Eye-opening. And a bit of a slap. Because the million-dollar goal was never mine. It was a borrowed dream. And I would’ve kept pouring out energy I didn’t have chasing something that was never mine to strive for in the first place. This episode is for anyone who’s been running on the treadmill of “more,” wondering why it never feels like enough. Maybe it’s time to stop and ask what your enough actually is.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USAJoin Authentic The Program - registrations open nowCoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jul 20, 2025 • 47min
Kat & Steve - repelling energy and how it messes with relationships
In this episode, Steve and I talk about something we’ve both played into in our relationship - repelling energy. That vibe you give off when you're fixated on what’s wrong with the other person, when you're simmering in judgment, frustration, or unmet and unvoiced expectations. And how that energy pushes away the very thing you actually want to feel with them: connection, closeness, understanding, safety.This one’s for you if you're single and you're not calling in what you want, and if you're in a relationship driving the very thing you want further away due to behaviour you might not have looked at yet.If you want to feel closer, more aligned, and less at war (internally or externally), this episode is for you.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USAJoin Authentic The Program - registrations open nowCoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jul 13, 2025 • 24min
A letter to myself, mid perimenopause shitstorm
This episode is not wrapped in a bow.It’s not a how-to. It’s not love and light. It’s not advice.It’s a letter I wrote to myself from the middle of the hormonal hurricane that is perimenopause. From the rage that comes out of nowhere. The anxiety that doesn’t make sense. The noise in my head that feels relentless. The days where I don’t feel like myself and wonder if I ever will again.I’m sharing this because I know I’m not the only one. And maybe, if you’re in your own storm, this will help you feel less alone. Less crazy. Less like you’ve lost yourself.In this episode, you’ll hear the truth. The mess. The noise. The reminder that even when it feels like you’ve lost yourself, you haven’t.You're not broken. You're not mad. You're not weak. You're in it. That’s all.And this is me, speaking from the inside of it to remind you that you’re not alone, and you will come back.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USAJoin Authentic The Program - registrations open nowCoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jul 6, 2025 • 39min
Kat & Steve - When you love each other but you’re in different headspaces
Steve and I talk about a recent experience where I was activated by something in the media. A majorly messed up story that stirred old wounds and brought up big emotion.It wasn’t easy. I felt tender, raw, and flat. And it would’ve been so easy for Steve to pull away or take it personally but instead he stayed close, even when it wasn’t comfortable. He loved me through it by holding space for me to be exactly where I was.We speak openly about what that looked like for both of us and how being in different headspaces doesn’t have to mean disconnection, if we’re willing to communicate from truth and not reactivity.I also share how I told my family: “I’m not okay right now, but I will be. This isn’t about you. I’m just in something.” Because I’ve learned that shutting down or punishing the people I love because I’m in pain only adds more layers to work through.And Steve reflects on how much that honest communication helped him stay connected to me, instead of trying to guess what was wrong or getting defensive. We talk about how far we’ve come from those reactive “What’s up your ass?” kind of moments and how we now use well-framed conversations to navigate tough emotional terrain with love and respect.If you’re in a relationship or in a family where one person’s heaviness can easily pull the whole ship off course, this episode is for you.It’s about holding space, taking responsibility and learning how to stay connected even when you’re not in the same headspace.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USAJoin Authentic The Program - registrations open nowCoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jun 29, 2025 • 28min
Laying her to rest - the one that chased significance
There’s a version of me I’m laying to rest - the one who chased significance, importance, and recognition because deep down, she didn’t feel like she was enough without it.She worked hard to prove she mattered. She strived for impact, for relevance, for acknowledgment. And sure, she did some incredible things… but it often came from a place of needing to feel like someone, instead of already knowing that she is.In this episode, I speak honestly about what it’s been like to let go of that version of me - to stop feeding the identity that’s addicted to doing more to feel more worthy - and to allow in a simpler, more grounded life. One with substance over sparkle. Where the way I do life - how I love, how I care, how I be is more important than what I do.This isn’t about playing small. It’s about coming home.To a life that’s real.To a self that’s already enough.If you’ve felt the tug to stop proving and start living more honestly… this one’s for you.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USAJoin Authentic The Program - registrations open nowCoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jun 22, 2025 • 37min
Kat & Steve - When your partner's healing becomes part of yours
In this episode, we share a really personal part of our recent family trip — visiting Auschwitz, and what that experience meant for Steve and his healing journey. This wasn’t just a tourist stop for us. It was something Steve felt deeply called to do — to stand there, to feel it, to face a piece of his history, bloodline, and to keep doing the work of processing and healing.I talk about what it looked like to support him through that. Not fix. Not rescue. But stand by him, hold space, and let him be where he needed to be — emotionally, physically, spiritually. And Steve shares what it meant to feel genuinely supported, not rushed or managed, but truly cared for and held.We also reflect on how big moments like this shape a relationship. When one person heals, the ripple hits both. It deepens the connection. It builds trust. It strengthens the kind of love that grows not just in the good times, but in the hard ones.It’s a vulnerable share — and one we hope reminds you of the power of showing up for each other in the hard, healing, holy moments of life.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowSunday Meds - live event by the beach, June 22ndWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jun 15, 2025 • 22min
Perception vs Reality — What You Think You See
It’s easy to look at someone’s life online and think, “Damn, they’ve got it all sorted.” The polished posts, the reels, the programs, the podcast—it can look like there’s a whole team behind it all.In this episode, I’m sharing what it actually looks like behind the scenes of my business. I’ve got one team member—my assistant—and the rest? I do myself. I record this podcast from home. I edit it. I upload it. I use AI tools to help with captions. I answer my own DMs. I’m in it, just like so many others out there who are doing big things with lean teams and real lives.I’m sharing this not for sympathy or applause, but because this is the reality for a lot of people—but barely anyone’s saying it. And when we don't talk about it, it creates this perception that if you're not doing it all effortlessly with a huge support crew, you're somehow behind.This episode is a reality check. A permission slip. A reminder that what you see online isn’t the full picture.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowSunday Meds - live event by the beach, June 22ndWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show

Jun 8, 2025 • 32min
Kat & Steve - Being on the same team as parents
In this episode, Steve and I open up about what it really means to be on the same team as parents—especially in the moments where we don’t fully agree, tempers are flaring, or it would be easier to throw each other under the bus because it's easier. We talk about:What “same team” actually means to us in real, practical termsHow we handle disagreements behind the scenes so we can show up united in front of the girlsWhy we believe alignment matters more than always being in agreementHow presenting a united front has strengthened our relationship and created more safety and stability at homeThis isn’t about being the perfect parenting duo. It’s about doing the inner work, respecting each other’s perspectives, and choosing the long game—for our partnership and our family.If you’ve ever found yourself frustrated, disconnected, or unsure how to navigate parenting differences with your partner, this is a conversation we hope brings insight, honesty, and a reminder that you’re not alone.Buy my book, Authentic - coming home to your true self - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me 1:1 - Book a 20-minute call nowThe Good Life - sign up nowFree Wheel of Life Assessment - take the test nowSunday Meds - live event by the beach, June 22ndWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearwww.katjohn.com.auSupport the show