Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Episode 48: The Brain is a Bonkers Place

Jun 17, 2019
Dive into a lively discussion about the pitfalls of toxic rom-coms that mess with our perceptions of love and relationships. The hosts critique classic films like The Notebook and Love Actually for their problematic messages around coercion and stalking. They also tackle how social media influences overthinking and anxiety, offering tips to curb obsessive habits. With a blend of humor and insightful advice, they help listeners navigate personal dilemmas like monogamy boundaries and nostalgia for past relationships.
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Intensity Isn’t Proof Of Rightness

  • The Notebook trains people to equate intense feeling with “meant to be,” even when that relationship is unhealthy.
  • Sam says coercion and noncommittal behavior can be romanticized as destiny, which is misleading.
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Early Media Shapes Romantic Priorities

  • Disney romances teach young audiences to prioritize marriage and sacrificing identity for love.
  • Sierra says this cultural messaging framed becoming “marriable” as a primary life goal.
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Romcoms Normalize Manipulation

  • How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days normalizes deceit and gender stereotypes as relationship plot devices.
  • Sam notes the film portrays toxic masculinity and career sacrifice as acceptable romantic outcomes.
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