In a thought-provoking discussion, Erica Komisar, a clinical social worker focused on early childhood, Louise Perry, a journalist critiquing the sexual revolution, and Deborah Frances-White, a comedian and feminist voice, explore whether feminism has betrayed women. They analyze the impact of casual sex on women's mental health, the decline of meaningful relationships, and the parenting crisis often ignored in society. The conversation challenges modern dating norms and its effects on female self-worth, urging a reevaluation of women's roles today.
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Deborah's Cult Escape Story
Deborah Frances-White escaped a patriarchal cult that denied sexual autonomy.
She credits the sexual revolution with giving women agency, autonomy, and emotional freedom.
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Complex Nature of Sexual Freedom
Freedom from the sexual revolution is complex and not uniformly positive.
Sexual agency must be balanced against societal responsibilities and personal well-being.
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Hookup Culture Impacts Women
Hookup culture pressures young people, especially women, into risky sexual behaviors.
Casual sex often leads to feelings of emptiness, anxiety, and regret for many.
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Erica Komisar
The Case Against the Sexual Revolution
Lewis Perry
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Jerzy N. Kosinski
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Why Middle-Class Parents Are Going Broke
Elizabeth Warren
In this book, Elizabeth Warren and Amelia Warren Tyagi reveal how the financial stability of middle-class families has deteriorated despite the increase in dual incomes. They argue that the rise in fixed living expenses, such as housing and education costs, and the decline in employment security have created a 'two-income trap.' The authors propose several policy solutions, including subsidized daycare, school vouchers, tuition freezes for public universities, and stricter credit regulations to mitigate these financial pressures. The book challenges the 'overconsumption myth' and highlights the need for institutional changes to support middle-class families[1][2][3].
Has feminism betrayed the very women it promised to empower? Deborah France-White, Louise Perry, and Erica Komisar go head-to-head on the hidden costs of sexual freedom.
Deborah Frances-White is a bestselling author and host of The Guilty Feminist podcast, Louise Perry is a journalist and author of The Case Against the Sexual Revolution, and Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and author of books such as, ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’.
In this heated debate, they discuss:
What casual sex is really doing to women.
Why relationships are declining.
The parenting crisis that no one’s talking about.
Why fewer people are having children.
How modern dating is affecting female self-worth.
00:00 Intro 02:29 Introducing the Panel 03:43 What Is the Sexual Revolution? 10:16 Autonomy, Freedom, and Agency as a Byproduct of the Sexual Revolution 15:03 Casual Sex and Hookup Culture 31:02 One Sexual Partner for Life 33:15 Age of Marriage Increasing Over Time 33:55 Emotional Consequences of Sex 39:51 Feminists Typically Have Had Trauma 43:28 Agency as a Personality Trait 47:42 Sex Education in Schools 49:34 Female Pleasure 51:27 Is Sexual Freedom Making Us Happy? 53:51 Feeling Bullied by the Narrative of Freedom 57:44 Ads 59:47 Manosphere and Tradwives 01:07:10 Do Women Want Men to Be Providers? 01:08:01 Children and Gender Roles 01:12:23 Poor Mothers Looking After Children 01:18:32 The Role Feminism Has Had on Motherhood 01:22:35 Would Steven Take 3 Years Off Work to Raise Children? 01:23:43 Men and Women's Nurturing Hormones 01:28:12 We Can't Be Neutral About Policies 01:30:39 The Narrative That Having Children Is Miserable 01:32:27 Female Guilt 01:33:35 Parenthood and Narcissism 01:41:42 Birth Rates Declining 01:43:06 Traditional Gender Roles 01:48:44 Demonizing Feminism 01:52:53 Link Between Political Stance and Number of Children 01:57:03 Ads 01:58:48 Pornography 02:06:17 Masculine Virtues 02:11:31 Do Boys and Girls Need to Be Parented Differently? 02:13:00 Chivalry 02:14:05 Evolutionary Differences 02:19:20 Quotas in Education 02:21:17 Final Thoughts
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