Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay How to Get Your Needs Met in a Neurodivergent Relationship-Paul Micallef
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Sep 10, 2024 
Paul Micallef, a relationship coach and emotional intelligence trainer, specializes in supporting autistic individuals and their partners. He discusses the crucial balance of meeting personal needs versus caring for a partner's quirks. The conversation dives into the importance of self-care, boundary setting, and fostering open communication. Micallef illustrates how understanding each partner's unique needs can enhance intimacy, while also addressing the nature of perpetual conflicts in neurodivergent relationships. Clear strategies for supportive dialogue make for an insightful listen.
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Social Boundaries
- Set up safe boundaries and exit strategies for social events.
- Knowing you can leave early reduces anxiety and encourages participation.
Validating Needs
- Acknowledge and accept your needs as valid, especially regarding intimacy.
- Communicating unmet needs clearly helps partners find solutions and avoid shame.
Love Languages & Compassion
- Use "love languages" to articulate specific needs, avoiding vague complaints.
- Frame unmet needs with compassion to reduce partner shame and defensiveness.