199. Lama Rod Owens (RADICAL DHARMA co-author, Buddhist teacher) – the price of the ticket to freedom
Jun 15, 2019
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Lama Rod Owens, an ordained Lama in a Tibetan Buddhist lineage and co-author of 'Radical Dharma,' shares his journey of navigating identity as a queer, black male from the American South. He discusses the interplay between anger and compassion, emphasizing how personal hurt can fuel activism and healing. The episode delves into confronting mortality through mindfulness, the importance of language in shaping identity, and the responsibilities inherent in racial dialogue. Ultimately, he advocates for compassion and awareness in facing societal injustices.
Acknowledging and reframing anger as an opportunity for compassion rather than a reaction can lead to personal and social healing.
Community trust is essential for addressing race and privilege, enabling meaningful dialogues that foster growth and understanding among members.
Mourning is crucial for emotional transformation, allowing individuals to honor their grief while fostering a balanced connection between joy and sorrow.
Deep dives
The Nature of Anger and Compassion
Anger is defined as the tension experienced when one has been hurt and recognizes the need to protect oneself. Instead of reacting violently, it's crucial to step back, acknowledge the hurt, and approach that energy with a sense of agency. By reframing anger to not be a reactionary force, compassion can emerge as a tool for self-empathy and understanding one's suffering. This approach allows individuals to honor their emotional responses while ultimately working towards minimizing violence and fostering peace within themselves and their interactions.
Tantric Buddhism and Anger
The exploration of anger within Buddhist traditions has evolved, with early teachings advocating for the avoidance of anger and later traditions, like tantric Buddhism, embracing it. These tantric practices focus on transforming anger into a constructive force by de-centering the ego, allowing for a compassionate response instead of one rooted in self-protection. This transformation means using anger wisely to address suffering and promote understanding rather than perpetuating harm. Embracing this complexity helps individuals navigate their emotional landscape more effectively, fostering personal and social healing.
Community, Vulnerability, and Healing
Communities play a vital role in the healing process, particularly for those seeking to understand and confront their identities and privileges. Building trust within these communities is essential for meaningful dialogues about race and privilege, as vulnerability must be earned and nurtured. The act of grieving the realities of one's identity and its implications is necessary for personal transformation and healing. Incorporating compassion into these discussions can help dismantle harmful power structures, allowing for a collective growth that benefits all members.
Mourning as an Emotional Practice
Mourning is presented as an essential practice for acknowledging the discomfort and grievances we experience throughout life. Proper mourning connects individuals with their emotional realities without falling into despair; it involves honoring feelings and allowing them to transform. The key is not to wallow in sadness but to create a space for emotions to move and evolve, recognizing the complexity and richness of human experience. This approach affirms that joy can coexist with sorrow, leading to a more balanced understanding of life and existence.
Words, Responsibility, and Connection
Language holds significant power in shaping our internal worlds and the dynamics of our relationships. Fostering a compassionate interaction with language encourages individuals to see others as part of themselves, thereby cultivating empathy and understanding. Acknowledging the responsibility of words can help bridge divides in society, prompting discussions that honor individual experiences and perspectives. This awareness can foster deeper connections, ultimately reinforcing the need to engage with one another in meaningful and thoughtful ways.
Like Mick Jagger, the Indian prince we know as The Buddha taught that we can’t get no satisfaction from this world, though we try and we try, and we try, and we try . . .
Buddha means “awakened one”. Awake to the fact that the world is impermanent and we suffer and cause suffering to one another because of that. “Woke” is a newer word for something similar. Waking up to pervasive social injustice. To racism, economic disparity, homophobia, and other forces that poison and destroy people’s lives and relationships. In other words, suffering people cause by clinging onto impermanent things—in this case, power. The intersection of these two kinds of awakening is at the heart of the work of my guest today, Lama Rod Owens. An ordained Lama in a Tibetan Buddhist lineage and the coauthor of RADICAL DHARMA, he grew up a queer, black male within the black Christian church in the American south. Navigating all of these intersecting, evolving identities has led him to a life’s work based on compassion for self and others, and on trying to help people wake up in all senses of the word.