EP 239.5:  From Trauma to Triumph ~ 6 Things Your Past Can Teach You **Must Listen Fav!**

In this powerful episode, Lindsey gets vulnerable about the connection between trauma and eating disorders, sharing why sometimes it's okay to look at our past to catapult us into our future. If you've experienced trauma and are wondering how it connects to your eating disorder, this episode will provide hope, healing insights, and practical steps forward.

Discover the 6 essential things to remember about your past that can transform your recovery journey and help you move from survival to thriving.

Note: This episode addresses sensitive topics around trauma. Lindsey emphasizes that as a recovery coach, she focuses on the here and now of recovery, while encouraging professional therapy support for trauma processing.

Key Topics Covered:

💔 The trauma-eating disorder connection: Why 81% of people with eating disorders have experienced trauma

🧠 Understanding trauma types: Acute vs. chronic trauma and how it relates to ED development

🛡️ Eating disorders as coping mechanisms: How restriction becomes a false sense of control

🌅 6 powerful reminders about your past that can transform your recovery journey

🕊️ The role of forgiveness in healing and moving forward

💪 Why your deepest pain can become your greatest triumph

Shocking Statistics Revealed:

📊 25% of those with eating disorders also meet criteria for PTSD

📊 81% of people with eating disorders had at least one traumatic experience

📊 68% experienced trauma before any eating disorder symptoms appeared

These numbers show you're not alone and that the connection between trauma and eating disorders is real and valid.

Common Traumas Associated with Eating Disorders:

⚡ Childhood abuse (physical, emotional, sexual) ⚡ Bullying or social ostracism ⚡ Body shaming and weight stigma ⚡ Loss and grief experiences ⚡ Accidents or medical trauma ⚡ Intergenerational or cultural traumatic events

Remember: Trauma is subjective - what's traumatic for one person may not be for another, and that's completely valid.

6 Things to Remember About Your Past: 1. Your Past Doesn't Exist Anymore

• Healing isn't linear - good and bad days are normal
• Some days it may feel real, but it's no longer your current reality
• Progress includes setbacks, and that's part of the process

2. Your Past Doesn't Define You

• Your experiences shape you but don't determine your worth
• You hold the power to grow, evolve, and change
• Only you have the key to become who you want to be

3. Your Past Can Only Serve as a Teacher

• All emotions about your past are valid
• There's no "right way" to feel about past experiences
• What matters is what you do next with that knowledge

4. Your Past Doesn't Have to Block Your Future

• Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness
• You can reinvent and recreate yourself
• No matter how many times you've tried recovery, you can start again

5. Holding On May Lead to Reliving

• Your wound is not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility
• Memories can be imperfect, especially trauma memories
• Holding on keeps you stuck in the struggle

6. Your Past Self Deserves Love and Forgiveness

• You did the best you could at the time
• Don't judge your past self with current wisdom
• You're not damaged or broken - you're worthy of healing

Key Insights About Trauma and Eating Disorders:

🔍 Eating disorders as control: When the world feels chaotic, restricting food can feel like the one thing you can control

🔍 Numbing mechanism: ED behaviors often serve to numb overwhelming emotions from traumatic experiences

🔍 False sense of safety: The eating disorder creates an illusion of control and perfection

🔍 Survival strategy: You turned to these behaviors because you needed to survive in that moment

Powerful Quotes from This Episode:

💭 "The deepest, hardest, darkest pain you've been through is most often what's going to catapult you into your highest, best, and truest version of yourself."

💭 "Your wound is not your fault, but your healing is most certainly your responsibility."

💭 "You do not need to judge your past self with your current wisdom."

💭 "You now know better, so you can now do better."

💭 "You aren't damaged. You're not broken. Nothing needs to be fixed, including your body."

Important Reminders:

✨ Trauma-informed care is crucial for eating disorder recovery ✨ Professional therapy support is essential for processing trauma ✨ Recovery coaching focuses on the here and now, not digging up past trauma ✨ Forgiveness is part of the healing equation ✨ You're worthy of a life free from pain, regardless of your past

Questions for Self-Reflection:

🤔 What am I holding onto and why? 🤔 What can be released from my past? 🤔 What needs to be forgiven? 🤔 How can my past serve as a teacher rather than a prison? 🤔 What version of myself am I ready to let go of?

Ready for Support? Work with Lindsey:

If you're ready for accountability, support, and freedom from your eating disorder, and you're done playing small, Lindsey would love to connect with you.

Next Steps:

• Visit herbest.co to fill out a client application
• See if you're a good fit for 1:1 recovery coaching
• Get support focusing on the here and now of recovery

What You'll Get:

• Practical recovery strategies that work
• Accountability from someone who's been there
• Focus on present-moment healing and future growth
• Support from a recovered anorexic turned recovery coach

Connect with Lindsey:

🌟 Website: www.herbestself.co 🌟 Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com  🌟 Email List: Join at www.herbestself.co for upcoming announcements about new services

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💕 Rate and review the podcast to help more women find freedom 💕 Share this episode with someone who needs to hear about trauma healing 💕 Join the private Facebook community for ongoing support 💕 Connect on social media and let Lindsey know how this impacted you

Special Announcement:

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If You're Struggling with Trauma and Recovery Today:

Remember that whatever you've experienced, whatever trauma you're carrying, you're still worthy of a life free from pain. Your past has served a purpose, but it doesn't have to define where you're going.

You have the power to take what you've learned and use it to catapult yourself into your highest and best self. Your healing journey matters, and you deserve nothing less than complete freedom.

 

Her Best Self with Lindsey Nichol is a podcast for women in eating disorder recovery who are ready to break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and diet culture to live authentically and wholeheartedly.

*While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.