Do you really know? What is a “performative man,” this trend that has taken over TikTok?
Nov 3, 2025
Explore the rise of the 'performative man' trend flooding TikTok with its slick aesthetics and ironic charm. This character embodies a modern masculinity often masking insincerity. Delve into how to differentiate genuine allyship from empty gestures through humorous tests and quizzes. Learn what it truly means to be an ally by emphasizing the importance of listening, humility, and education. The discussion promises insights into today's culture and the complexities of masculinity.
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The Performative Man Archetype
- The performative man is a new social-media archetype that borrows feminine-coded aesthetics and feminist references.
- He often presents as a polished, seemingly deconstructed version of masculinity without deeper change.
Image Can Mask Harmful Behavior
- The performative man's progressive image can be surface-level and deceptive.
- He may replicate toxic behaviours while appearing to reject them, aiming to look deconstructed rather than be deconstructed.
Parody And Public Quizzes
- TikTok turned the trope into parody and even hosted live contests like Seattle's 'best performative man' quizzes.
- Most contestants failed questions on women's rights, menstrual health and suffrage history.