142. Normalising Grief and Loss with Charlene Lam

Who are you without alcohol in your life?

Can you answer that question? Does it fill you with dread to even consider it?

Charlene Lam is the Grief Coach, Speaker and Curator of The Grief Gallery.

During this interview, Patrick and Charlene bring up a conversation that not many are willing to have, understanding grief and the role it has in our lives.

It's a topic that many feel uncomfortable with and are unsure how to navigate conversations around it.

During this episode, you'll learn how to define what grieving is for you, what it looks like and how you can begin to create safety in grieving during your alcohol rethink journey.

Check out some of the key topics on this week’s episode:

- How we downplay loss

- The grieving process goes beyond death (Defining Grief)

- Cumulative losses and leaky grief

- The importance of feeling safe in order to grieve

- Learning to allow whatever you feel

- Different styles of grieving

- The challenge with judgement and comparison in how you feel

- The questions that loss brings to identity

- Doing a loss inventory of your life

- The problem with using the external to change the internal (False coping mechanisms)

- Using alcohol to express emotions

- How you speak to yourself matters

Connect with Charlene Lam:

Website: https://www.charlenelam.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charclam/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curating_grief

The Grief Gallery’s Free Monthly Gathering - last Wed of every month at 2pm ET

https://www.charlenelam.com/gathering

Curating Grief film with Jamie Max Lee: https://curatinggrief.com/film

Connect with Patrick:

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Discover how his 6-month 1-1 coaching program will take you from feeling out of control and self-hating to sober, clear-headed, full of energy, looking good and doing more of what you love in life.

Whether you decide to work with him or not, the consultation alone will help you understand where you are and why you do what you do. It’s a no-brainer. Get yourself booked in⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

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