Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Karis Topkin. Karis is a mother, a lover, and a healer, helping people to reclaim their pleasure and heal their traumas, allowing them to follow their own heart-led path and create a life that feels deliciously good, connected, and rooted in pleasure and wholeness. Karis and I talk about her work with men in South Africa and the hands-off sexual healing modalities that she uses in her conservative community. We also discuss strategies for holding space for men, allowing them to open up and release emotions by embodying the Mother Archetype. We close with a brief discussion about sexual energy and pleasure across the lifespan.

Key Points:

- Karis’ journey reclaiming pleasure

- Masculinity in South Africa

- Male gratification vs female pleasure

- Karis’ work with men

- The Mother Archetype vs mothering

- Feeling comfortable holding space for men

- Energy work vs body work

- Healing inner child wounds

- Sexual energy and pleasure

Relevant links:

Karis’ Instagram: @karistopkin

Karis’ TikTok: @karis_healing