Can I Call You? Can I Call You? Porn, Dating the Patriarchy and Life Priorities
May 29, 2025
This lively conversation tackles the burning question: does watching porn count as cheating? The hosts explore the tensions of dating in a patriarchal society, balancing attraction with critiques of masculinity. They dive into the complexities of love in the digital age, discussing jealousy and online influences. Additionally, they ponder whether marriage really trumps career aspirations, emphasizing the evolving views on relationships, financial independence, and the importance of open dialogue in modern connections.
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Frustration with Patriarchy Not Men
- Hating men usually reflects frustration with the patriarchy, not individual men.
- Safety feelings often rely on politics and personal values rather than gender alone.
Narrative Hinders Real Talk
- The "men are trash" narrative makes real-life conversations between men and women rare.
- This reduces tolerance and opportunities to get to know each other.
Differentiating Porn and Parasocial Cheating
- Watching porn alone is generally not considered cheating.
- Engaging emotionally with parasocial relationships or live cams is viewed as disrespectful and cheating.