374: The 3 main archetypes of men. Which one are you? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay]

How connected do you feel to your heart? How about to your cock?

One of the advantages we have as coaches for men is that we seen the patterns that frequently show up for different men. We've noted three specific archetypes in our work and here, we go over them. (If you've ever heard me reference the heart/cock matrix, that's part of this episode.)

Why does this matter? In large part because most women I know who are attracted to men (myself included) have a deep yearning to relate romantically with men who embody one specific archetype that we discuss here. We cover all three types of men, their differences, their paths, and the one that a lot of women crave from the depths of their being.

(And while the themes in this episode are framed in a heterosexual/straight dating and relationship context, I believe there's a universal human longing involved here.)

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "A lot of men were raised by a dad who they didn't want to be like."
• "For the basic bro, there's a lot of 'go' energy -- a lot of action-taking; and a lot of 'I' energy (rather than 'we' energy)."
• "These kinds of men will get laid, but they won't get her to commit to them."
• "If he hasn't gone to those depths within himself, I don't trust him to hold my depths as a woman."
• "Nice Guys -- one of their superpowers is helping people to feel safe."
• "Growing up, these guys are learning to prioritize others rather than themselves."
• "'I was waiting for her to give me a sign that it was OK to kiss her.'"
• "It's allowing yourself to be seen when you don't have it all together."
• "For these men, it feels like, 'I'm giving and giving and giving, and never getting.'"
• "He re-polarized his relationship, and it changed everything."
• "Nice Guys will often end up in a relationship because the woman took the initiative."
• "Who were you raised by?"
• "What does it mean to love myself and grow?"
• "Around anger I had thoughts like, 'Why bother? It won't do anything anyway.'"
• "It's the ability to go to wherever we need to go in any given moment."