In a culture obsessed with fixing, this discussion challenges the notion that everything needs to be healed. The episode explores the concept that body-based modalities can simply be tools, not mandatory solutions. It delves into the complexities of self-trust for those with sensory issues or trauma. Expectations play a crucial role, especially in the dynamic with practitioners. Additionally, it suggests that neurodivergent traits aren't obstacles but unique aspects to embrace.
Fixing can be a trauma response, emphasizing that individuals shouldn't feel pressured to heal everything in a solution-oriented culture.
The concept of 'staying unhealed' encourages self-acceptance and the understanding that constant change isn't necessary for personal worth.
Deep dives
The Importance of Acknowledging Feelings
Intellectual understanding is essential for emotional processing, especially for individuals with autism and ADHD. Engaging with feelings purely on an emotional level may not suffice, as intellectual clarity can provide necessary insights that help to alleviate discomfort. For instance, when confronting interpersonal issues, analyzing the root causes—like recognizing someone as boring—can lead to emotional relief by clarifying the situation rather than merely dealing with feelings superficially. This highlights the significance of matching emotional experiences with cognitive insights to move towards better emotional health.
The Concept of Staying Unhealed
The notion of 'staying unhealed' promotes the idea that it’s acceptable to pause or even halt the pursuit of constant self-improvement or healing. This philosophy emphasizes self-acceptance, recognizing that one doesn't always need to be in a state of change to be valid or worthy. Allowing oneself to step back from the healing journey provides room for self-kindness and can lead to surprising realizations or solutions later on. Ultimately, accepting the current state of being—rather than forcing change—can foster a compassionate approach to personal growth.
The Role of Self-Trust in Healing
Self-trust serves as a foundational element in effectively engaging with therapeutic practices like hypnosis. A sense of trust empowers individuals to explore their unconscious and accept the healing process without self-sabotage. It is essential for individuals, especially those with experiences of gaslighting, to validate their feelings and trust their instincts regarding their healing journey. Understanding that there is no singular way to heal allows for greater flexibility in therapy, encouraging individuals to honor their own experiences and proceed at their own pace.
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Embracing the Unhealed Self: A Journey of Acceptance
Fixing can be a trauma response. You don't need to heal everything!
Especially in our very fixing-oriented culture that will sell you a solution to problems you didn't even realize you had.
Body-based modalities and working with the unconscious (including hypnosis) are just tools. Just because the tool exists doesn't mean you have to use it. Because someone else healed from something doesn't mean you have to.
This episode touches on some issues around working with the unconscious, including:
You can work with your unconscious on your own
Self-trust can be complicated if you have sensory issues or trauma
Expectations matter a lot, including the vibe with the practitioner