Mindset Matters - Episode #171 - Is Life Even Fair?

In this episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany dive into the loaded concept of fairness. They unpack how “fair” is often used in political, business, and personal conversations, yet its meaning is highly subjective.

Patrick kicks off the discussion with a provocative example: a financial agreement where one party lends money at an agreed interest rate, only to later feel shortchanged when the borrower makes a significant profit. The scenario highlights how fairness can shift depending on perspective, emotions, and unforeseen outcomes.

The hosts explore the distinction between fairness, evenness, and merit. Steffany points out how fairness is often misinterpreted, such as in sports when coaches say they will distribute ice time fairly—but not necessarily equally. Similarly, in society, politicians use the word to push an agenda, but are they really advocating fairness or simply playing with language to appeal to emotions?

They also touch on how fairness—or the lack of it—creates victim mentalities. If fairness is a core value, then feeling deprived or overlooked can be a frequent and frustrating experience. Instead, Steffany suggests shifting the focus from fairness to possibility, embracing personal responsibility rather than waiting for an even playing field.

The episode ties fairness back to relationships, work, and personal growth, urging listeners to examine where they feel things are “unfair” and whether assumptions, miscommunications, or unspoken expectations are at play. Ultimately, Patrick and Steffany challenge listeners to redefine fairness for themselves and recognize how it shapes their mindset, decisions, and sense of fulfillment.

Is life truly fair? Or is it about agreements, perception, and perspective? Tune in and decide for yourself.