Restored: Helping Children of Divorce #102: Healing Sexual Brokenness: Your Sexual Brokenness Isn’t Random | Jay Stringer
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Aug 1, 2023 
In this enlightening discussion, Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and author of 'Unwanted', sheds light on the connection between untreated trauma and sexual brokenness. He reveals how specific family dynamics can predict sexual struggles, explaining why many repeat harmful behaviors. Jay emphasizes the role of anger in driving unwanted desires and how empathetic witnessing can aid healing. With insights from a study of thousands, he encourages listeners to explore their sexual urges with curiosity, providing paths to lasting freedom from compulsions.
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Family Secret Sparked His Work
- Jay Stringer describes discovering family secrecy after his grandfather's funeral and confronting his emotionally distant grandmother.
- That experience motivated Jay to study sexual shame, trauma, and secretive family stories across generations.
Sexual Struggles Reveal Root Causes
- Jay's study of ~3,800 people linked sexual fantasies and porn search patterns to specific untreated traumas and family histories.
- Sexual problems reveal underlying wounds and can act as roadmaps to targeted healing rather than random faults.
Powerlessness Drives Specific Fantasies
- Rigidity in a father, shame, and lack of life purpose predict attraction to power-themed porn and fantasies.
- Porn can offer a short-lived sense of agency that compensates for lifelong feelings of powerlessness.
