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How Do You Love Without Being Attached? | Kevin Griffin

Dec 14, 2022

In this engaging conversation, Kevin Griffin, a seasoned Buddhist practitioner and author of 'Living Kindness,' shares insights on the balance of love and attachment. He discusses how to love without clinging and the nuances of self-love as an act of kindness. Griffin highlights the difference between loving kindness and living kindness, emphasizing that compassion can exist without attachment. They also explore the Metta Sutta's teachings, offering practical guidance on cultivating emotional connections while recognizing the challenges of love and suffering.

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Intro

4min

Exploring Love and Attachment in Relationships

3min

The Power of Metta: Cultivating Love and Kindness

25min

Cultivating Self-Love Without Attachment

3min

Navigating Love and Suffering

11min

The Complexity of Self-Love and Mindfulness

5min

Exploring Self-Love and Loving Kindness

9min

Exploring Kindness in Literature

2min

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Today we’re tackling some thorny dharma questions. For example: How do you love someone without attachment? How do you love yourself when the self is allegedly an illusion?

Kevin Griffin is both a long time Buddhist practitioner and also a 12 step participant, and in another previous episode we talked to him about the nature of craving and addiction. In this popular episode from the archives, Kevin talks about his semi-skeptical take on loving kindness – that venerable if somewhat misunderstood Buddhist concept and practice. His book is being re-released this month, with a slightly new title Living Kindness: Metta Practice for the Whole of Our Lives.

In this conversation, we talk about:

Loving kindness versus living kindness
The dangers of modern loving kindness practice
The idea that you don't have to feel love all the time
And we talk about a Buddhist text called the Metta Sutta.

Content Warning: The interview includes brief references to addiction and other forms of suffering.

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/kevin-griffin-370-rerun

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