Heart of Man Traver Boehm: Moving Past Rock Bottom & Becoming UNcivilized | EP 26
"THE UNCIVILIZED MAN... Is Unapologetically Male. Dangerous but not a danger. Makes still his mind, makes savage his body. Knows his gifts grow in the garden of his wounds. Practices presence and performance. Honors the men before him, the women who bore him, and the children who will inherit his Earth. Has equal and easy access to his head, heart, and balls. Lives, by the rule — there are no rules — but there is responsibility. Loves fiercely, openly, and without reservation. Knows strength without love is tyranny. Knows love without strength is victimhood."
These are the words you will find on the „about me“ page of the website „Man Uncivilized, created by the founder Traver Boehm.
Traver is a man who knows men deeply. And much of the wisdom and insights he imparts to other men actually from his own lived experiences, particularly the breakdown moment that flipped his life upside down and catapulted him on his path of transformation. In a mere period of 24 hours, his wife and his business partner at the time both decided to go their separate ways – resulting in the loss of his marriage, business partnership, and business.
Dumbstruck by what had happened, Traver knew the only way he could overcome this loss was by consciously moving through it.
He created a program for himself called the "Year to Live Project," where he deliberately lived an entire year as if it was his last. And in that year among other things, he volunteered in hospice, spent 28 days in a dark room, and completed a one-month outdoor survival course. Eventually his own journey of growth led him to birth "Man Uncivilized" – one of the fastest-growing men's movements in the world where his mission is "to stop the unnecessary suffering in men in order to stop the suffering caused by men."
I first became exposed to Traver's work three years ago when I read his book "Man Uncivilized." At the time, I was on a deep journey of self-discovery, exploring what it even means to be a man, but also how I could integrate the aspects of myself that I had locked away, such as my assertiveness, anger, grief, shame, and desires, among many other things.
Traver's work has been absolutely pivotal for me in my own journey, and it was an honor to come full circle and invite Traver to "Heart of Man."
As I see it, this conversation deeply lived up to the anticipation I had for it. We delved deeply into Traver's personal journey and extracted some of the deepest lessons, as well as what helped him move past rock bottom. And from there, we transitioned into our conversation around men and masculinity, diving into various areas such as moving through pain as men, relationships, and sexuality. This has been an absolutely powerful deep dive – and I can't wait for all of you to dive in.
Connect with Traver:
Website:
https://www.manuncivilized.com/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/?hl=de
Interested in moving past the "Nice Guy Mask"? Join Traver's "Kill The Nice Guy" Course: https://www.manuncivilized.com/killtheniceguy
Read Traver's book "Man Uncivilized": https://www.amazon.com/Man-UNcivilized-hate-youll-book-ebook/dp/B088KTC56G
Listen to Traver's Podcast "The UNcivilized Podcast": https://open.spotify.com/show/7IVMtZqO1WwgYKxKvSVqqK?si=-YyPDUBiTAynnBKJbTgfwA
Connect with Alex:
Website:
https://www.alexlehmann.co/
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