On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Cam intterviews Alex, a men's sex coach, about authenticity in male sexuality. Alex shares his personal journey and experiences with societal pressures that shaped his early sexual experiences, including performance anxiety and the influence of substance abuse. Cam and Alex discuss the transition towards a more genuine, shame-free sexual expression. They explore how societal messages and stereotypes impact not only their sex lives but also their broader relationships and mental health. They emphasise the importance of open communication, vulnerability, and self-exploration to understand one's unique sexual blueprint. By overcoming fear and anxiety, they advocate for embracing one's authentic sexual self. The episode also touches on the significance of nervous system regulation in dealing with sexual anxieties and the role of men's support groups in facilitating open conversations about these issues.

Key points:

00:00 Introduction and Opening Questions

00:47 Defining Authentic Sexuality

01:52 Societal Expectations and Masculinity

03:05 Personal Struggles with Sexual Performance

05:30 Journey to Sobriety and Self-Discovery

07:23 Facing Shame and Embracing Authenticity

15:33 Navigating Nervous System Responses

17:22 Breathwork and Nervous System Regulation

21:08 Communicating Sexual Desires with Partners

25:10 The Importance of Vulnerability

29:46 The Struggle of Asking for Help

30:05 Acknowledging the Need for Help

31:07 Vulnerability in Discussing Sexual Issues

31:59 Exploring Sexuality and Self-Understanding

33:20 The Power of Erotic Blueprints

35:14 The Fluidity of Sexual Desires

38:31 Breaking Free from Masturbation Habits

40:39 Navigating Shame and Self-Pleasure

42:29 The Anxiety Around Ejaculation

49:10 The Importance of Vulnerability in Men's Groups

50:16 Closing Thoughts and Where to Find More

#269 Authentic Sexual Expression: A Journey Beyond Societal Expectations (with Alex Gear)