Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn Sensory overload in intimacy and the ADHD hyperfocus spiral (Listener Q&A!)
Dec 16, 2025
This discussion dives into the challenges of sensory overload during intimacy, particularly for those with ADHD. Cate provides actionable tips for communicating sensory needs to partners and suggests practical solutions like white noise and quiet intimacy styles. She then explores the hyperfocus cycle, explaining its potential downsides and how it can lead to neglecting essential needs. Emphasizing self-compassion, Cate shares strategies for managing momentum anxiety and safely transitioning from focused work. Tune in for relatable insights and expert advice!
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Sensory Sensitivities Spike With Burnout
- Sensory issues around sex are common and can involve sounds, tastes, and touches.
- Burnout and stress amplify sensory sensitivities by maxing out the nervous system.
Bring It Up Without Blame
- Talk about your sensory experience using 'this is about my sensory processing' to avoid blaming your partner.
- Propose solutions together and frame it as collaboration rather than criticism.
Use Sound Tools To Reduce Noise
- Try environmental tools like white noise, headphones, or earplugs to reduce triggering sounds.
- Experiment and adjust because solutions like earplugs can sometimes amplify internal sounds for some people.