Explore the power of self-love this Valentine's Day, whether you're single or partnered. Find tips for creating a personal sanctuary, setting up a space for relaxation and self-care, and treating yourself with kindness. Discover unique ways to celebrate self-love on Valentine's Day, such as pampering sessions, indulgent purchases, solo trips, and virtual connections with loved ones.
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Valentine's Day can be reclaimed as a day of self-love regardless of relationship status.
Creating a designated sacred space and planning self-love gifts are practical ways to enhance self-love.
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Valentine's Day as a Self-Love Experience
Valentine's Day can be a disappointment for many, with unmet expectations or feelings of exclusion. Psychotherapist Terry Cole suggests reclaiming the day as a self-love experience, regardless of relationship status. Celebrating healthy love every day, Cole encourages individuals to treat themselves as beloveds, identifying their own love languages and expressing love accordingly. She shares practical ideas for creating a designated sacred space, journaling and dreaming, and planning self-love gifts, emphasizing the importance of investing time, attention, and care in oneself.
Creating a Zen Den
Cole advises creating a designated sacred space, called a 'Zen Den,' where individuals can engage in spiritual work, daily meditation, or gratitude journaling. The Zen Den can be as small as a corner of a bedroom or a side table but should be adorned with elements that create a cozy, comfortable, and calming atmosphere. Cole suggests incorporating twinkly lights, candles or non-flammable varieties, essential oils, soft blankets or cushions, photos of loved ones, and an outside element like branches or flowers to foster a connection with nature and create a sense of serenity.
Planning Self-Love Gifts and Rituals
To enhance self-love, Cole recommends planning meaningful gifts and rituals for oneself. This includes taking oneself out for a special dinner, creating a luxurious spa-like experience at home, treating oneself to a mani-pedi, buying a meaningful piece of jewelry or a beautiful outfit, trying something new like dance or singing lessons, planning a solo or art trip, going on a tech break, or organizing a Zoom or FaceTime call with loved ones. The focus is on investing time, attention, and resources to honor one's worthiness and deservingness, treating oneself as the beloved.
Does Valentine’s Day feel meaningless without someone to spend it with?
Does it cause more disappointment than happiness?
Or are you simply tired of all the hype around it?
You are not alone, my friend. I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day myself.
What if we did something different? What if we focused on the power of self-love this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day?
If this sounds better than the usual alternative, I got you covered with three steps you can take to celebrate YOU, whether you are single or partnered.
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