The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Ep. 168: "I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings
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Quick takeaways
- Children's aggressive language often signals deep emotional distress, requiring parents to focus on the underlying feelings rather than the words spoken.
- Matching a child's emotional energy while maintaining personal regulation fosters understanding and supports healthier communication during intense interactions.
Deep dives
Understanding Aggressive Language in Kids
When children express themselves using aggressive language, such as saying 'I hate you' or 'I'm going to kill you,' it's essential to recognize that these words often stem from deep emotions rather than literal intentions. This type of language is typically an indication of distress or a desire for space, reflecting intense feelings that children may not be able to articulate in other ways. Adults are encouraged to focus not just on the words themselves but on the underlying emotional state, assessing the child's level of arousal and interpreting it as a communication of feeling trapped or overwhelmed. Acknowledging this can lead to more empathetic and constructive responses, helping to diffuse the situation instead of escalating it further.
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