Jocko Podcast Jocko Underground: Obsessing Over Your Spouses Past
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Dec 29, 2025 The discussion delves into the pitfalls of obsessing over a partner's past, emphasizing the importance of focusing on the present and future. Jocko connects financial and custody stress to obsessive behaviors, advocating for confidence over insecurity. He encourages faking calmness as a tool to build genuine confidence, and highlights the necessity of making conscious choices to shape desired outcomes in relationships. Echo stresses the importance of self-discipline, especially in blended families, to navigate life's challenges.
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Live In The Present
- Stop living in the past and focus on who you are and who your partner is now.
- Improve daily as a dad, partner, and professional instead of digging into prior relationships.
Control Is An Illusion You Chase
- Stressors you can't control make you search for control in other areas.
- Obsessing over the past is an illusion of control that actually hands control to the past.
Act Confident Regardless Of Feelings
- Don’t show insecurity about your partner’s past; act confident and secure instead.
- Treat her past relationships and kids as non-factors and focus on building your current family.