A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment

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Feb 15, 2024

Learn about avoidant attachment style in relationships and its origins. Explore signs of avoidant attachment and strategies for dealing with it. Discover the importance of effective communication and prioritizing needs in a relationship. Shift from blame to ownership and prioritize consistent connection to overcome avoidant attachment.

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Attachment Styles

Avoidant attachment is not inherently worse than anxious attachment.
Both are adaptive strategies developed in childhood, often due to insecure caregiving.

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Avoidant Attachment Defined

Avoidant attachment prioritizes independence over intimacy.
This can manifest as a fear of deep relationships, prioritizing sovereignty.

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Adaptive Strategies

Attachment styles are not diseases but adaptive strategies.
They develop in childhood due to interactions with primary caretakers, especially in the first three to five years.

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Talking points: attachment, mindset, relationships, psychology

The last “A Man’s Guide” was a big hit. I had a feeling it would be, but the response still surprised me! Next up, a serious breakdown of avoidant attachment. Here's the definition, where it comes from, the signs, and tips for moving away from it in a relationship.

This is a great episode to listen to with your partner. Take notes, discuss, and see what comes up! Lastly, thank you to everyone who reached out with comments, questions, ideas, and gratitude. I love doing these longer-form presentations; it means I get to nerd out and really lay things down.

(00:00:00) - Intro

(00:03:56)- Defining secure attachment versus avoidant

(00:06:51) - Attachment styles don’t mean you’re broken or diseased in some way

(00:08:20) - What an avoidant attachment style ultimately is, where it comes from, and one major type many men embody

(00:15:12) - One major origin point of avoidant attachment: emotional distance or unavailability

(00:23:59) - Another major origin point: premature independence

(00:26:44) - And the third: rejection of attachment

(00:29:27) - Last one: inconsistent responses and emotional stability

(00:33:49) - Signs of avoidant attachment in your relationship

(00:40:39) - What to do if you’re with an avoidant partner

(00:50:43) - What to do if YOU are the avoidant partner!

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