The Real Marriage Podcast Does Your Marriage Need Help?
Nov 18, 2025
When should couples seek help for their marriage? Discover the surprising reasons many avoid counseling, even when in crisis. The importance of finding Christian counselors is emphasized, as is the necessity of mutual agreement among partners. Learn how repentance and forgiveness can restore oneness. The hosts highlight the value of multiple mentors and the need for ongoing self-care to maintain a healthy relationship. Serving together is also suggested as a way to strengthen bonds. Seeking help is normalized, proving that even leaders benefit from guidance.
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Crisis Marriages Avoid Help
- More dire marriages seek help less often, with only a small percent pursuing support even in crisis.
- Isolation increases as marriages deteriorate, worsening problems instead of resolving them.
Use Temporary Triangles Wisely
- Use a temporary third person (a 'temporary triangle') to diagnose and fix stuck issues, but aim to remove that person once you have tools.
- The goal of counseling is to equip the couple so they no longer need a permanent third wheel.
Choose Christian Clinicians With Spiritual Skill
- Seek Christian professionals who combine clinical skill and spiritual wisdom when therapy is needed.
- Look for counselors who can diagnose root issues like depression, trauma, or toxic family systems.
