You’re Not Broken, You’re Patterned: Why We Do Things We Don’t Want to Do in Parenting

Jun 11, 2025

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Do you ever feel stuck in a reactive cycle as a parent — responding in ways you wish you wouldn't, again and again? Like Paul in Romans 7:15, you might find yourself saying, “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.”

Here’s the good news: you’re not broken — you’re patterned. And patterns can be healed.

In this episode, we unpack what it means to be shaped by behavioral patterns, where they come from, and how they show up in our parenting and marriage. We explore the early steps toward recognizing and healing these patterns, and how God’s redemptive work can bring real change.

Through scripture, personal stories, and practical steps, we guide you toward deeper awareness — and point you to the healing that leads to freedom and greater connection in your home.

We also make an exciting announcement on the podcast today: Intentional Fatherhood is officially launching on Friday, June 13! In the meantime, visit the website, follow @intentionalfatherhood_ on Instagram, and subscribe to the podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Steps for Experiencing Healing From Patterns:

1. Name the story

2. Grieve the loss of what should have been but wasn’t

3. Invite Jesus into that wound

4. Practice new patterns

Reflection:

Reflect on one pattern that shows up often in your marriage, parenting or friendship

Question:

What is that pattern protecting you from and what is it trying to say?

Prayer:

Ask Jesus to help you be curious and kind about your story.

Scripture Mentioned: Romans 7:15, 1 Corinthians 11:1, 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, Romans 7:14-18, Romans 7:22-25, James 1:19-20 + Isaiah 53:3