Dive into the complexities of disorganized attachment, where children may run to caregivers who are both a source of comfort and fear. This chaotic dynamic reveals how vital connection and co-regulation are in healing. The conversation also extends to adults, reinterpreting disorganized attachment as unresolved issues from childhood. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own emotional needs while emphasizing the importance of nurturing support for children facing such challenges.
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Disorganized Attachment
Disorganized attachment differs from other attachment styles because it lacks an organized strategy for meeting needs.
It's the only style that's both insecure and disorganized, resulting in unpredictable behavior.
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Attachment is Not Good or Bad
Attachment patterns themselves aren't inherently good or bad, they simply exist.
Even disorganized attachment, despite its negative consequences, serves a protective function.
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Source of Fear
Disorganized attachment arises when a child's caregiver is the source of their fear.
The child's need for safety conflicts with the fear their caregiver evokes, creating confusion.
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Learning about disorganized attachment might feel overwhelming and bring up uncomfortable feelings. Listen in a place and at a time you can take breaks and seek regulation. Titrate yourself! Maybe read the article on the blog instead of listening to the podcast. www.RobynGobbel.com/disorganizedattachment ***********
Another episode in the June 2021 series on attachment!
Today is all about disorganized attachment. If you haven't caught the previous four episodes in this series on attachment, be sure to check them out.
In this episode, we look at
What happens when a baby's attachment system has them fleeing toward their caregiver when they are afraid, but the caregiver is who is causing the fright
Why disorganized is disorganized- it's the only attachment 'style' that isn't organized
The kinds of experiences an infant can experience as disorganizing
There’s a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don’t have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
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