The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 38: The Tragedy of Disorganized Attachment

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Jun 22, 2021
Dive into the complexities of disorganized attachment, where children may run to caregivers who are both a source of comfort and fear. This chaotic dynamic reveals how vital connection and co-regulation are in healing. The conversation also extends to adults, reinterpreting disorganized attachment as unresolved issues from childhood. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own emotional needs while emphasizing the importance of nurturing support for children facing such challenges.
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Disorganized Attachment

  • Disorganized attachment differs from other attachment styles because it lacks an organized strategy for meeting needs.
  • It's the only style that's both insecure and disorganized, resulting in unpredictable behavior.
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Attachment is Not Good or Bad

  • Attachment patterns themselves aren't inherently good or bad, they simply exist.
  • Even disorganized attachment, despite its negative consequences, serves a protective function.
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Source of Fear

  • Disorganized attachment arises when a child's caregiver is the source of their fear.
  • The child's need for safety conflicts with the fear their caregiver evokes, creating confusion.
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