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#317 - Dan Lyons on STFU

Mar 16, 2023

Dan Lyons, NY Times-bestselling author, discusses his book STFU: THE POWER OF KEEPING YOUR MOUTH SHUT IN AN ENDLESSLY NOISY WORLD. Topics include talkaholism, impact on anxiety, shutting off technology, social media, health, work, parenting, love, emailing, leading by STFU, and the difficulty of listening.

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Quick takeaways

Excessive talking can worsen anxiety and have negative effects on mental well-being.

Technology plays a role in encouraging talkaholism and can impact societal well-being.

Listening attentively and using fewer words can be powerful in personal and professional relationships.

Deep dives

The Power of Keeping Your Mouth Shut

Dan Lyons explores why some people talk too much and the physiological value of talking less.

Introduction

3min

The Struggles of Talkaholics

15min

The Illusion of Digital Smarts

14min

The Power of Meaningful Conversations

17min

Unique Gift Ideas and Being an STFU Parent

5min

Finding Balance in Conversation on a First Date

3min

The Power of Silent Connection

6min

The Power of Concise Communication

6min

The Power of Saying Very Little

2min

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The Importance of Listening and Taking Notes in Meetings

15min

New York Times-bestselling author, screenwriter, and journalist Dan Lyons chats with Trey Elling about STFU: THE POWER OF KEEPING YOUR MOUTH SHUT IN AN ENDLESSLY NOISY WORLD. Topics include:

The book's inspiration (0:38)
'Talkaholism' compared to alcoholism (1:25)
Neurological differences in over-talkers (3:21)
Talkaholism at its worst (5:49)
How over-talking can worsen anxiety (9:53)
The value of shutting technology off (13:06)
STFU on social media (25:19)
How STFU can positively impact your health (32:07)
STFU at work (43:28)
STFU parenting (50:20)
STFU for love (54:30)
STFU while emailing (1:04:20)
Leading by STFU, per Jeff Bezos & Richard Branson (1:09:45)
Why listening is so hard for people (1:19:02)
Whether Dan is better at STFU after writing the book (1:25:17)

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