147: Puberty, toxic friendships, 'Pick me' girls - top tips for parenting teenagers from teenagers
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Jun 18, 2025
Dive into the challenges of parenting teenagers as they discuss the tricky phases of puberty and body changes. The conversation highlights the importance of open dialogues about sensitive topics like wearing bras. Toxic friendships take center stage, with tips on recognizing unhealthy dynamics and valuing self-worth. The discussion also tackles the term 'pick me girls,' exploring its roots and implications on gender dynamics. This lively exchange spans insights on societal pressures, the quest for authenticity, and the transformative journey of teenage self-discovery.
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Approach to Discussing Puberty
Give your child space to open up about puberty without pressuring them directly.
Try group conversations to normalize body changes, making it less personal and intimidating.
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Bra Wearing Should Be Voluntary
Do not pressure daughters to wear their first bra if they are uncomfortable.
Let them choose when they feel ready to wear one to build confidence in their own body.
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Impact of Male Gaze on Girls' Comfort
Girls' discomfort with their bodies is often influenced more by societal pressures than their own feelings.
Fear of the male gaze can be a learned behavior rather than an inherent feeling of shame.
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It's a rare luxury to have both my girls available for half an hour to record an episode, and when I do I love to talk about listeners questions. Poor Amelia had a really bad cold, but she was still keen to help, so sorry about the sniffles.
This time we talked about:
Puberty and Body Changes
Helping girls navigate early stages of puberty
Discussing body changes with daughters
Approaches to talking about wearing first bras
Toxic Friendships
Defining what makes a friendship toxic
Recognizing unhealthy friendship dynamics
Setting boundaries and knowing when to end a friendship
Importance of self-worth in friendship.
"Pick Me" Girls
Origin and meaning of the term
Different interpretations of "pick me" behavior
Internalized misogyny
How the term is used to criticize or police women's behavior
Gender Dynamics
Male gaze and body shaming
Societal expectations for girls and boys
Pressures to conform to certain behaviors
Importance of being authentic
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