512 - Before, During, and After Opening Up Your Relationship
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Jan 14, 2025
Explore the journey of opening relationships, examining emotional challenges and essential communication strategies. Discover motivations for non-monogamy and the importance of self-reflection. Learn how to nurture connections through intention-setting and the role of community support. Delve into balancing personal needs with joint decision-making and the emotional complexities that arise. Tips for maintaining trust and transparency highlight the significance of preparing for unexpected feelings in this transformative adventure.
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Early Disclosure
Disclose your desire for non-monogamy early in a new relationship.
Periodically remind your partner, as comfort can lead to assumptions of monogamy.
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Early Conversations
Start conversations about opening up a relationship sooner rather than later.
This gives both partners time to process and avoids shocking them with a sudden change.
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Research and Sharing
Research non-monogamy thoroughly before discussing it with your partner.
Share your findings and encourage them to learn as well.
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Lola Phoenix's "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy" offers a compassionate and insightful approach to navigating the complexities of non-monogamous relationships. The book tackles the anxieties and insecurities often associated with exploring ethical non-monogamy, providing practical advice and relatable experiences. Phoenix challenges societal norms and expectations, emphasizing self-compassion and the importance of understanding one's own emotional responses. The book is a valuable resource for individuals considering or already practicing non-monogamy, offering guidance on communication, boundary setting, and managing difficult emotions. It promotes a realistic and nuanced perspective on non-monogamy, acknowledging both its challenges and rewards.
Polywise
Jessica Fern
David Cooley
Jessica Fern's "Polywise" delves into the complexities of polyamorous relationships, offering practical advice and insightful perspectives. The book emphasizes the importance of communication, establishing clear boundaries, and navigating the emotional challenges inherent in non-monogamous dynamics. It provides tools and strategies for building healthy and fulfilling polyamorous relationships, addressing common concerns and misconceptions. Fern's expertise in relationship dynamics shines through, making "Polywise" a valuable resource for individuals and couples exploring or already engaged in polyamory. The book encourages self-reflection and open communication as essential components of successful polyamorous partnerships.
Today we're going back to some polyamory 101 basics and talking about opening up previously monogamous relationships. We'll be talking about some helpful things to consider before opening up your relationship, what to do during the critical period where things are shifting, and how to maintain your partnership(s) after the initial opening up.
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