Love Life With Matthew Hussey 3 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit (And What You Can Do) | Rewind
Dec 12, 2025
Ever wonder why some men hesitate to commit? Discover the top three fears that hold them back, including decision paralysis and the fear of losing their independence. Learn how to lower relationship stakes by inviting gradual closeness and offering a trial commitment. Unpack the importance of maintaining individuality while nurturing trust through consistent behavior. It's a journey of understanding that could lead to a more profound connection!
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Choice Paralysis From High Stakes
- People often fear making the wrong choice because they see partnership as a single, irreversible life decision.
- Matthew Hussey argues relationships usually become 'the one' through mutual investment, not immediate certainty.
Lower The Stakes To Encourage Investment
- Lower the initial stakes by inviting someone 'in through the shallow end' so they can experience the relationship.
- Tell them you want to give it a real shot now without deciding the whole future, which reduces decision paralysis.
Fear Of Losing Identity
- Men fear losing themselves through relationship demands: hobbies, friends, routines and perceived control.
- This fear can lead them to avoid commitment to preserve identity and autonomy.