Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

126 | Forgiving Yourself After Betraying Your Wife

Oct 6, 2025
Explore the internal struggles of self-forgiveness after betrayal. Discover how toxic beliefs fuel shame and self-sabotage, creating barriers to healing. Johnny shares his journey from self-loathing to acceptance, emphasizing the importance of recognizing God's forgiveness. Practical exercises like writing forgiveness letters help listeners release their burdens. The conversation encourages husbands and wives to support each other's recovery journeys, fostering a deeper understanding of healing and grace.
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Shame Becomes An Identity Trap

  • Shame turns problems into identity: it says "I am the problem," not "I have a problem."
  • That identity-based shame drives self-punishment and ongoing secrecy that sustain addiction.
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'I Am Unforgivable' Is A Self-Locking Lie

  • Negative "I am" statements harden into beliefs like "I am unforgivable."
  • Those beliefs block God's forgiveness from working in you even though God has forgiven you.
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Guilt Causes Clutching And Control

  • Believing you don't deserve good things causes both guilt and clutching behaviors to protect them.
  • That paradox fuels secrecy, defensiveness, and acting out to maintain control.
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