Reframing impromptu situations as opportunities rather than obstacles helps us become more comfortable and confident in spontaneous communication.
Embracing authenticity and letting go of constant perfectionism allows for more genuine and effective communication.
Deep dives
The Challenge of Spontaneous Speaking
Spontaneous speaking in professional communication, such as feedback, answering questions, and introductions, is often more important than prepared presentations. However, many people find these impromptu situations challenging due to self-consciousness, overthinking, or shutting down. The key is to tap into our expertise in improvisation, recognizing that we are naturally skilled at spontaneous communication. By reframing these situations as opportunities rather than obstacles and being present in the moment, we can become more comfortable and confident.
Dare to Be Dull and Shoot for Average
In improvisation, the fear of being unoriginal inhibits spontaneity. Embracing the idea of 'daring to be dull' and being obvious allows for genuine and authentic communication. When we let go of the pressure to impress and focus on being ourselves, we can effectively connect with others. Moreover, by embracing the concept of 'shoot for average and fail cheerfully,' we create a safe space to play, explore, and take risks in our communication. When we accept the possibility of failure and let go of constant perfectionism, we can be more present, conversational, and authentic.
Being Present and Embracing Offers
Being present and embracing offers is essential in spontaneous communication. Staying present allows us to actively listen, recognize opportunities, and reframe challenging questions or situations positively. Approaching these moments as opportunities to engage and delve deeper rather than as threats or attacks shifts the dynamics and facilitates meaningful communication. By responding with curiosity, asking for more details, and genuinely engaging with others, we transform potential obstacles into bridges for connection and understanding.
Most professional communication is spontaneous in nature: it’s providing feedback in the moment, answering questions, introducing people. On this podcast episode, Strategic Communication lecturer Matt Abrahams speaks with Stanford lecturers Adam Tobin and Dan Klein on how to become more comfortable and confident in in-the-moment speaking situations.