#216; GET results without falling into another diet cycle. Skills to live your life by design without obsession, anxiety & overwhelm/Josh Hillis

I can commit to too much for a short time but not a long time

You want to make progress but you also have all these other things we will put in 

We have never done anything 

Realise the cycle that has always looked the same 

Actually realise it 

That should be painful enough that you don’t want to go down that route anymore

Working on these skills will be hard at first

Its uncomfortable because its new

But its different than the drama of crashing and burning

Be done enough with the diet cycle of failure that you need to be willing to embrace 

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How I need to be, 

What I need to do

Flexibility to a way of being

“look different in different situations” 

NO "For others to like me"

Situationally dependent 

Our values are connected to other people

Looking good was the way to look good 

Is it possible to accept myself and change

Work on myself and have goals

“We don’t often feel like it “

Practice in making mistakes 

How?

Values list 

Snacking and why behind it 

What is it about the family 

Its it about quantity of food or sharing food with them 

You do need some self care 

MONEY THING of all the same thing at once

Instead, it’s time for you to do the important work of building eating skills, dealing with perfectionism, and clarifying your values around food. It’s a healthier approach, a more effective approach, and an approach that get you the weight loss results you want for a lifetime.

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This is why structure and discipline is so important 

Eating behavior change is hard. We often won't "feel like it."⁠

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Is it possible to accept myself and change

Work on myself and have goals

Driving – metaphor 

TOTALLY BALANCED MEAL

This is why structure and discipline is so important 

LIVE YOUR LIFE BY DESIGN

TRAINING WHEELS

Emotions 

Checking in with me is hard 

I'm going to write that down 

What do I feel in my body 

Empty hollow feeling in your stomach 

Shoulders tight or loose? 

Breathing right now?

Are there any feelings youre having that you can put some words around

Where do you see they stem from when 

How do you deal with the night eating

Happiness for me is freedom for myself from being a people pleaser and getting back my sense of self worth and loving my family without conditions.

I want to feel peace in my core and learn resilience from difficulties and stress   

The better people are at differentiating how they feel – the better they are at coping with the things 

You are really self aware – you know you are doing things to please other people

You got perspective and it is really useful

So now you can manage it – you are in control