Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40 #32: Why Shared Values Aren’t Enough for a Lasting Relationship
Aug 14, 2025
In this conversation, Nick Brancato, a relationship strategist and author of 'Prioritize Us', reveals why shared values alone can't sustain a lasting relationship. He discusses the importance of emotional intimacy and effective communication to navigate love, particularly in the face of mental health challenges. Nick emphasizes the need for resilience and mutual investment for deeper connections, introducing practical tools like the 'move us test' to foster relational growth. Discover how curiosity and empathy can enhance love and connection.
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Marriage Through Mental Health Crisis
- Nick describes his marriage and that his wife has schizophrenia which shaped their relationship work.
- He credits shared interaction points and a test he developed for helping navigate that extreme challenge.
Priorities Versus Values
- Priorities change over time even when core values remain stable.
- Priorities answer "what's important now" and drive everyday conflict more than stated values.
Use A Ten-Priority Ranking Test
- Rank ten core life priorities individually and compare results to reveal misalignments.
- Add the absolute differences to get a total score that shows hidden gaps to discuss.
