Happier with Gretchen Rubin

More Happier: “Crying in H Mart” by Michelle Zauner [Revisited]

Dec 13, 2025
Michelle Zauner, writer and frontwoman of Japanese Breakfast, delves into her memoir, Crying in H Mart, exploring profound themes of grief and identity. She shares how food became a love language with her mother and reflects on her musical journey intertwined with personal loss. Zauner discusses the cultural and generational differences that shaped their relationship, and how writing helped her gain deeper insights into herself and her family. With a mix of vulnerability and creativity, she connects her life experiences to her artistic expression.
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ANECDOTE

Crying In H Mart Explained

  • Michelle Zauner explains 'Crying in H Mart' as her going to a Korean grocery while grieving her mother and buying ingredients to remember her.
  • She cried in H Mart because cooking Korean food helped her grieve and reconnect with her mother's memory.
ANECDOTE

Kalbi As A Homecoming Ritual

  • Michelle's most memorable dish from her mother was kalbi served with rice, lettuce, samjang and dongchimmy.
  • That meal marked homecoming after college and symbolized her mother's way of showing love.
INSIGHT

Love Expressed Through Food

  • Michelle realized in her twenties that her mother's expression of love was through food and practical care rather than overt affection.
  • Writing the memoir deepened her understanding of immigrant-parent cultural differences that shaped their relationship.
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