When you look back on the moments you regret most in your life, a fair number of them likely involved you being angry. And if these cringe-inducing, life- and relationship-damaging moments happen more often than you'd like, then it's time to start thinking about how to get a handle on your anger.

My guest today offers help in that process. His name is Dr. Chip Tafrate, and he's a clinical psychologist, a professor of criminology and criminal justice, and the co-author, along with Howard Kassinove, of Anger Management for Everyone: Ten Proven Strategies to Help You Control Anger and Live a Happier Life. Chip walks us through what anger is, how it's distinctive from aggression, and how it can be both destructive and healthy. We then get into some of the strategies Chip recommends for managing your anger so it stays in that latter zone, including making changes to your lifestyle, avoiding anger-inducing triggers, reframing your thoughts, and doing anger exposure therapy.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• Anger Management for Any Situation — Chip and Howard's Udemy course
• AoM podcast #614 with Steven Hayes on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
• AoM Podcast #489: How to Get a Handle on Your Anger
• AoM Article: How Reframing Builds Resilience
• AoM Article: The Virtuous Life — Tranquility

Connect With Dr. Chip Tafrate

• Chip's faculty page at CCSU

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