Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi discuss topics such as handling the aftermath of an affair with a friend's spouse, helping a struggling daughter regain her footing, dealing with nighttime anxiety, and addressing hurtful comments from parents. They also emphasize the importance of taking risks and not overthinking decisions.
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Quick takeaways
Recognize the chain of thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings and question their validity.
Explore core beliefs that lead to self-criticism and shame in relation to sleep issues and reconsider their evidence-based support.
Consider participating and enjoying travel experiences as a tired person, and explore new perspectives on joy and traveling as a hypersensitive sleeper.
Deep dives
Understanding the Thought Patterns
The main challenge lies in the thought patterns that generate anxiety. Recognize the chain of thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings. Questions the validity of these thoughts and consider alternative perspectives.
Unpacking Limiting Beliefs
Challenge the belief that you should sleep like everyone else. Recognize that you have your own sleep patterns and needs. Explore the core beliefs that lead to self-criticism and shame. Question whether these beliefs are supported by evidence or if they are unnecessarily harsh and unhelpful.
Addressing Travel Anxiety
Examine the belief that sleep issues are ruining your joy of travel. Consider that you can still participate and enjoy travel experiences even as a tired person. Reconsider what truly brings you joy and explore new perspectives on traveling as a hypersensitive sleeper.
Addressing Practical Factors
Maintain a consistent sleep schedule, avoid caffeine and large meals close to bedtime, and prioritize regular exercise. Consult with a doctor for a comprehensive evaluation and consider requesting a sleep study to rule out any medical concerns.
Addressing Body Image Comments with Parents
A listener seeks advice on how to gently correct her parents when they make body image comments about others. The hosts suggest calmly expressing how these comments make her feel and how they affect others, without being confrontational. They also recommend separating the comments from herself and recognizing that they are more about her parents than about her. Sharing personal experiences related to body image is optional but could be helpful in addressing the issue.
Considering a Big Move to a New State
A listener is contemplating a big move to a different state and is unsure if it's the right decision or just a grass-is-greener mentality. The hosts acknowledge that the decision can be challenging but emphasize the importance of clear expectations and realistic evaluation. They suggest spending time in the potential new city to get a feel for the community and see if it aligns with their desires. They also advise considering the possibility of a fresh start and new experiences, while reminding the listener that challenges and trade-offs are inevitable with any move.
Should you throw in the friendship towel after a feckless frottage foul with someone's significant other? Can you make it right? Welcome to Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Should you throw in the friendship towel after a feckless frottage foul with someone's significant other, or can you make it right? Shrugging your shoulders and quipping, "At least it's a dry cheat" is probably not your best option.
As parents, you've been bearing the burden of your adult daughter's bad choices in education, employment, and financial responsibilities, but she hasn't always been so reckless. What's changed, and how can you help her regain her footing when she doesn't even seem to want to help herself?
You love to travel, but struggle to sleep away from your own bed due to persistent insomnia or hypersensitivity. You've experimented with all the common remedies to no avail, but what's left to try? [This segment is sponsored by BetterHelp. Big thanks to Haesue Jo, Head of Clinical Operations at BetterHelp!]
How do you gently nudge your 70-year-old parents away from offering body-shaming commentary that was more socially acceptable in their youth (and was instrumental in the negative way you felt about yourself in yours)?
Though life in your hometown is what many would consider idyllic, you can't shake the feeling that you've missed out on experiencing what it would be like to live elsewhere. How can you explore your options without upending the quality of life your family currently enjoys?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!