Flo Perry, author of How To Have Feminist Sex, discusses hang-ups around sex and how to celebrate our bodies in a healthy way. They explore the unrealistic portrayal of vaginas in pornography, societal conditioning around pleasure, the pressure to constantly strive for improvement, understanding consent, regaining confidence after trauma, and the impact of pornography on perceptions of sex.
Embracing and prioritizing individual desires and pleasure in sex, challenging societal norms and reclaiming language and ideals.
Promoting body positivity, challenging narrow beauty standards, and embracing uniqueness.
Deep dives
The Importance of Feminist Sex and Pleasure
The podcast episode explores the concept of feminist sex, emphasizing the importance of having sex that brings pleasure and is free from shame. It challenges societal expectations and encourages individuals to prioritize their own desires and pleasure rather than conforming to societal norms. The speaker discusses the role of shame and guilt in shaping attitudes towards sex and highlights the need to reclaim language and redefine societal ideals. The episode also addresses the impact of pornography and the importance of open communication, consent, and understanding in relationships.
Breaking the Taboos: Embracing Body Positivity and Challenging Beauty Standards
The podcast delves into the topics of body positivity and challenging narrow beauty standards. It discusses the impact of media and society's portrayal of idealized bodies, emphasizing the need for individuals to embrace and love their bodies as they are. The speaker encourages people to follow diverse body-positive influencers and create a social media feed that celebrates all body types. The episode highlights the need to challenge societal expectations and embrace one's uniqueness.
Navigating Moments of Uncertainty and Imbalances in Relationships
The episode addresses the challenges and dynamics of relationships, particularly in terms of differing sex drives and uncertainties. It suggests viewing sex in terms of individualized sex brakes and accelerators, where each person has their own unique turn-ons and turn-offs. The importance of open communication, understanding, and addressing imbalances in desire is emphasized. The episode also touches on the significance of masturbation within relationships as a way to address differing sex drives.
Confronting Taboos and Educating about Consent and Sexual Assault
The podcast episode tackles the often taboo subjects of consent and sexual assault. It emphasizes the importance of believing survivors and providing the necessary support. The speaker highlights the need to differentiate personal beliefs from legal standards and emphasizes the importance of open conversations around consent. The episode encourages the destigmatization of conversations surrounding sexual assault and the fostering of empathy and understanding.
How have we got to 62 episodes without mentioning sex? Flo Perry, author of How To Have Feminist Sex, drops by to discuss with Fearne some of our hang-ups and what we can do to celebrate our bodies in a more healthy and celebratory way. Warning: strong sex references