The Walk Worthy Podcast Episode 21: Tracing Desire, Healing Shame: Jay Stringer on the Path to Wholeness
Dec 29, 2025
Jay Stringer, a therapist and author focused on sexual brokenness, joins the conversation to unveil how early relationships shape adult desires and behaviors. He discusses attachment theory and its links to emotional reactions, urging curiosity and compassion rather than condemnation. Stringer critiques simple solutions to lust, advocating for deeper understanding of trauma and identity. He reveals how to reframe desires, explore childhood influences, and embrace community for genuine healing, making this a profound dive into intimacy and spiritual growth.
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Attachment Shapes Desire
- Attachment forms from being seen, safe, and soothed in childhood.
- Unaddressed attachment wounds explain many adult unwanted behaviors like porn or overeating.
Use Reactions As Clues
- Track your reactions to find where you sit in your window of tolerance.
- When triggered, get curious about the childhood story behind the reaction instead of shaming yourself.
Porn Searches Tell A Story
- Porn searches are not random and reveal patterned fantasies tied to upbringing.
- Strict parenting, lack of purpose, and shame strongly predict specific porn preferences and use.
