The Female Dating Strategy Inside the Mind of Misogyny: A Conversation with Lundy Bancroft on Toxic Masculinity
Jun 11, 2025
Lundy Bancroft, a respected author and expert on domestic abuse, joins to tackle the topics of toxic masculinity and coercive control. He highlights how abusive behavior is learned, not innate, and contrasts the effectiveness of intervention programs versus traditional therapy. Lundy discusses the impact of media and socialization on young boys, warning against romanticizing harmful traits. He shares strategies for women to identify red flags in dating and emphasizes the importance of strong personal boundaries and collective support among women.
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Abuse Is A Learned Entitlement
- Abuse is driven more by learned entitlement and beliefs than by individual psychology.
- Lundy Bancroft says abusers enforce their will, not act from unique emotional disorders.
Don’t Rely On Therapy To Fix Abusers
- Therapy rarely changes abusive men's behavior; batterer programs differ from therapy.
- Attend programs that contact the partner and focus on attitude change and accountability.
Young Boys Absorb Online Misogyny
- Abusive behaviors in boys often mirror adult male role models and online culture.
- Lundy links social media, porn, and unaccountable internet discourse to earlier exposure to misogyny.
