The Model Health Show
TMHS 742: The Secret to Healing from Your Past & Creating the Life You Want – with Christine Hassler
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Quick takeaways
- Cultivating healthy relationships is essential for our mental and physical well-being, and studies show it can reduce the risk of premature death.
- Healing our inner child and addressing unmet childhood needs can lead to healthier relationships.
- Taking responsibility in relationships, managing expectations, and releasing them for emotional and physical well-being.
Deep dives
The Impact of Healthy Relationships on Health and Happiness
The quality of our relationships has a significant impact on our health, longevity, happiness, and overall success in life. Studies show that having healthy social bonds can reduce the risk of premature death by 50%. Cultivating healthy relationships is a vital ingredient in our mental and physical well-being, yet many of us are not taught how to do it.
Understanding Inner Child and its Role in Relationships
Our childhood experiences shape our beliefs and needs, creating an inner child within us. The inner child carries unmet childhood needs and seeks to resolve them in relationships. By addressing our inner child and giving it the love, safety, and emotional expression it needs, we can heal wounds and develop healthier relationships.
The Power of Forgiveness and Compassion in Relationships
Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing and freeing ourselves from resentment and pain. Understanding our parents' actions and their own upbringing brings compassion and acceptance. By forgiving and offering gratitude for the lessons learned, we can experience a shift in our relationships and find freedom from carrying childhood wounds.
Balancing Love and Boundaries in Parenting
Healthy parenting involves a balance between love and boundaries, allowing children to experience necessary suffering and learn resilience. Being consistent, setting boundaries, and staying regulated while supporting children in their emotions is essential for their growth and development. Healthy parenting also involves doing our own inner work, as children often mirror our unprocessed emotions and triggers.
Taking responsibility and managing expectations in relationships
In this podcast episode, the speaker emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility in relationships and managing expectations. They highlight that expecting our partners to be mind readers is unrealistic and can lead to resentment. Instead, they advise communicating our needs and desires directly to our partners. While pleasant surprises are appreciated, it is crucial to take responsibility for not getting disappointed when our expectations are not met. They discuss the role of expectations in causing physical ailments and emphasize the need to release expectations for maintaining emotional and physical well-being.
Finding balance between self-care and caring for others
The podcast episode explores the challenge of finding balance between caring for oneself and caring for others. The speaker shares a personal story about their son's reflection on his identity and the importance of caring for others while also prioritizing their own happiness. They discuss the concept of finding an order of things rather than striving for a perfect balance. They emphasize the significance of self-care and coming from a resourced place when helping others. The speaker also discusses the role of surrender, accepting love, and letting go of expectations in finding the right partner and starting a family.
Relationships are one of the most profound, life-giving aspects of being human. But on the other side of the coin, our relationships can often leave us feeling disappointed, frustrated, and stressed. Many times, improving our relationships comes down to shifting our own perspectives and expectations.
On today’s show, you’re going to hear about the root cause of relationship struggles. Our guest, Christine Hassler is a bestselling author, Master coach, and speaker. Her work is focused on improving relationships, inner child healing, and overcoming past traumas.
Christine is back on The Model Health Show to talk about expectation hangovers, how to heal your inner child, and the secret to overcoming resentment in relationships. This episode is jam-packed with empowering tips for improving your relationships and creating the life you want. Enjoy!
In this episode you’ll discover:
- How our relationships are tied to our survival.
- Why relationships are like mirrors.
- The impact our childhood has on our thoughts, beliefs, and relationships.
- How expectations can lead to disappointment.
- Why the ages 0-7 are formative for your nervous system.
- Examples of how your inner child can act out subconsciously.
- The different types of attachment styles.
- What inner child healing looks like.
- The role suffering plays in childhood development.
- How staying regulated as a parent can help your children.
- What an expectation hangover is.
- The main cause of resentment in relationships.
- An important distinction between empathy and sympathy.
- What true surrender is.
- The power of getting regulated and resourced.
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- Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
- Healing Your Inner Child Workshop
- Connect with Christine Hassler Website / Podcast / Instagram
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