Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Was I Used for a Visa?
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Jan 12, 2026 A woman grapples with the fallout of a five-year relationship marked by deceit and manipulation. She uncovers infidelities and questions her partner's mental health, exploring the blend of emotional closeness and sexual disconnect. Together with Esther, they examine trust issues stemming from betrayal and the difficulty of discerning reality. The conversation shifts to rebuilding her narrative about love, enabling her to approach future relationships with clearer eyes and an understanding of how to navigate complexities.
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Early Deep Bond After Lockdown
- The guest met her partner after lockdown and quickly felt an intense, soothing bond that felt like the deepest love she'd experienced.
- They moved in, shared intimacy, and she perceived him as emotionally close though sex grew distant early on.
Breakup Whiplash And Shocking Revelations
- The relationship deteriorated into whiplash as he alternated between wanting to fix things and declaring he didn't feel love.
- He moved out and the guest discovered texts, harassment claims, and widespread infidelity.
Confession Followed By Tenderness
- The guest confronted her partner who admitted years-long cheating, harassment claims, and inappropriate OnlyFans shoots.
- Despite admissions, moments of emotional tenderness in therapy left her doubting a purely malicious narrative.