49. From the Mouth of a Babe, With Matthew Stockwell

As parents, we sometimes forget just how much our relationships, especially our relationship with our partner, impacts our children. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I interview my nine-year-old son, Matthew. We have a very frank, unscripted conversation where I ask him questions about our family, his friends, and life in general. He shares some insightful thoughts about how the smallest hint of tension or disagreement between his parents can be upsetting and he offers advice on how he believes parents can help children “have a wonderful time”. Buckle up for a really sweet and unique conversation that I'm excited to share with you. 

 

IN THIS EPISODE:

 

• [00:46] Introduction and explanation of today’s guest
• [04:55] Alexandra welcomes her son, Matthew to the interview 
• [05:20] What’s it like being the youngest child in the family?
• [06:34] What makes the Stockwell family, the Stockwell family?
• [07:22] What do you mean by we are the “opposite of divorced?” 
• [10:06] How children perceive parental tension  
• [11:45] What’s it like having older siblings? 
• [12:28] Advice for parents: How to help your children have a wonderful childhood
• [13:08] What have you learned about yourself from being a son and a brother?

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

 

• It’s important to understand that what happens within your marital relationship will have an impact on your children. 
• The more sensitive your child is the more they might perceive the simplest of tensions between you and your partner as a negative experience 
• Matthew shares two important pieces of advice to parents on how to help kids have a wonderful childhood: challenge kids to grow and learn but don’t push too hard; and encourage children to connect with others but also let them learn to be content by themselves.

 

Matthew is Alexandra and her husband's 4th and youngest child, age 9 at the time of the interview. In the conversation, Matthew shares openly and honestly about being a member of the Stockwell family and shares insights on how important his parents relationship is for him.

 

Links Mentioned:

 

Intimacy Program: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/intimacy/

 

Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

 

Alexandra’s website: www.alexandrastockwell.com

 

Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

 

Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy

 

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