Husband Material How To Be Vulnerable: Scratches, Scabs, And Scars (with Henry Brown)
Feb 17, 2025
Henry Brown, Director of Operations & Support at Husband Material Ministries, shares his expertise as a nationally certified Life Coach and Recovery Coach. He introduces a powerful framework of 'scratches, scabs, and scars' to navigate vulnerability during sexual struggles. The conversation delves into the intricacies of emotional recovery, emphasizing the importance of sharing personal stories and creating safe spaces for connection. Henry highlights how vulnerability fosters healing and prevents isolation, providing valuable insights for those on their journey.
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Henry's Story
- Henry Brown was adopted into a Christian family and discovered masturbation at 11, using it to cope with unacknowledged emotions.
- Later, he experienced non-contact sexual abuse and turned to porn during college when dating struggles resurfaced his emotional numbness.
Scratches, Scabs, and Scars
- The "scratches, scabs, and scars" framework helps navigate vulnerability when sexually struggling.
- "Scratches" represent surface-level triggers, emphasizing connection over detailed sharing to avoid isolation and potential acting out.
Handling Scratches
- When experiencing a "scratch," connect with someone to break isolation, but avoid oversharing sexual details.
- Focus on general connection, diverting attention away from the immediate trigger.