In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill and Megan provide guidance for coping with the complicated emotions that can arise when a high conflict person passes away. They cover the confusing mix of grief and relief family members often feel, how to handle being blamed after the loss, and the destabilization that can occur when a high conflict adult child loses a parent.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• How do you handle the blend of grief and relief after the death of a high conflict loved one?
• What if you were the target of blame by the deceased?
• Why do high conflict people often lash out more after losing a stabilizing parent?
• How can probate turn siblings against each other?

Key Takeaways:

• It's normal to feel both grief and relief when a high conflict person dies. Don't judge yourself.
• Being the target of blame can be depressing. Counseling helps with the loss and disorientation.
• Loss of a stabilizing parent can really destabilize a high conflict adult child's other relationships.
• High conflict people view things in black and white terms. Try to stay above the "teams" forming during probate.

Losing a family member is always difficult, but even more complicated when high conflict is involved. Bill and Megan provide compassionate insight into managing these challenging situations and emotions. They remind us that empathy, perspective and communication are key.

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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (01:35) - Grief Over the Death of a High Conflict Loved One
• (02:16) - Grief, Relief, and Guilt
• (04:24) - Stages of Grief
• (08:09) - When You Were Their Target of Blame
• (10:20) - When Caregiving Parent of HCP Dies
• (14:06) - Family Relationships – Complicated and Source of Identity
• (17:30) - When a Narcissistic Parent Dies
• (20:53) - Focus on Positive
• (22:08) - Wrap Up
• (22:28) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Civil Communications for Lawyers and Law Offices

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