440. Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life
Feb 19, 2024
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Guest Jamie Kern Lima, co-founder of IT Cosmetics, discusses self-worth vs. self-confidence, emphasizing internal work for fulfillment. She shares insights from her book 'Worthy' and highlights the importance of believing in one's worthiness to achieve goals and overcome doubt.
Self-worth trumps external achievements for true fulfillment and success.
Distinguish between self-worth and self-confidence to unlock full potential.
Low self-worth can lead to stagnation and self-sabotage, hindering growth and fulfillment.
Deep dives
The Importance of Self-Worth
Self-worth is a critical factor in our overall fulfillment and success. It goes beyond self-confidence and is the deep internal belief that we are enough and deserving of love and belonging. Achieving external success does not necessarily equate to a high level of self-worth. Many high achievers still feel unfulfilled and struggle with feelings of not being enough. This realization prompts the need to prioritize building self-worth, which involves understanding and accepting oneself, embracing authenticity, and reframing rejection. Raising self-worth empowers individuals to pursue their goals fearlessly, enjoy achievements, and experience true fulfillment.
The Distinction Between Self-Worth and Self-Confidence
Self-worth and self-confidence are often confused and used interchangeably, but they have crucial differences. Self-confidence fluctuates and is largely based on external factors, such as skills, achievements, or how we measure up against others. In contrast, self-worth is an internal knowing that we are worthy of love and belonging exactly as we are, regardless of achievements or external validation. Building self-worth is essential because, even with high self-confidence, individuals can still struggle with feelings of not being enough or unsatisfied. Recognizing and cultivating self-worth is key to tapping into our full potential and experiencing deep fulfillment.
Embracing Authenticity and Overcoming Stagnation
Low self-worth often manifests in feeling stuck or sabotaging opportunities for growth. Many individuals find themselves unable to move forward even when they have the skills or capabilities required. This stagnation may stem from a lack of belief in their own worthiness of achieving their goals or expressing their true selves. Additionally, individuals with medium to high self-worth may achieve external success, but still feel unfulfilled because their self-worth becomes their ceiling. Embracing authenticity and recognizing that being different doesn't make us crazy, but rather unique and first, is crucial in breaking free from these limitations and unlocking our full potential.
The importance of self-worth and its impact on success
The podcast episode explores the role of self-worth in achieving success and fulfillment. The speaker shares a personal anecdote about not reaching out to someone they looked up to for four years due to feelings of unworthiness. They emphasize that even with external achievements and accomplishments, if one does not believe they are enough, it can lead to self-sabotage and a lack of fulfillment. The speaker encourages listeners to turn down the volume on self-doubt and turn up the volume on their knowing, their deep sense of self-worth, to overcome this challenge.
Changing the relationship with rejection and failure
The podcast episode discusses the importance of changing one's relationship with rejection and failure. The speaker shares their experience of facing countless rejections while building their billion-dollar business, and how they reframed rejection and failure in their life. They explain that rejection and failure do not define one's potential or worthiness, and share a framework for identifying and reframing one's own definitions of rejection and failure. The speaker emphasizes the importance of becoming fearless in the face of rejection and failure, as it can lead to significant personal and professional growth and success.
In this remarkable episode, we sit down with the extraordinary Jamie Kern Lima—self-made entrepreneur, champion of women, philanthropist, keynote speaker, and the co-founder of IT Cosmetics. Starting from her living room, Jamie built her company into a billion-dollar empire, eventually selling it to L'Oreal for an astonishing 1.2 billion dollars. Her success led her to become the first female CEO in L’Oreal’s history of over a century and secured her a spot on Forbes' list of richest self-made women. Beyond her impressive business achievements, Jamie is an active investor in more than 15 companies and today, she shares her wisdom and insights from her journey.
During our conversation, Jamie delves deep into the themes of her book, "Worthy," exploring the crucial distinction between self-worth and self-confidence—a differentiation many of us struggle to understand. Despite her long list of accomplishments, Jamie reveals how achievements alone did not fulfill her self-worth, shedding light on a common pitfall for many achievers. The insight that "In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams, you stay stuck at the level of your self-worth," underscores the importance of internal work over external achievements for true fulfillment.
Don't miss out on this incredible conversation. Tune in to gain insights that could change your perspective on success, self-worth, and the path to fulfilling your true potential.
Check out Jamie Kern Lima’s book, "Worthy," today. It's a resource not to be overlooked by anyone on a journey toward personal and professional growth.
To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: the1thing.com/pods.
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The difference between self-worth and self-confidence
