313: GuyTalk: Life after being with a BPD partner (Borderline Personality Disorder)

"I took responsibility for things that wasn’t mine to take."

So begins the brave stories of four men who share their personal experiences of what it was like being in relationship with a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (or with traits of it).

If you've ever been unsure about whether your partner may have traits of BPD, this is a good one to listen to. For example, ever felt like your role in your relationship is solely that of a caretaker? In one man's words, "I felt like a caregiver and she was my responsibility."

Thrillingly, this episode is about more than just the intensity of being in an unhealthy relationship. It's also the story of freedom, expansion, and joy. It's how these men got out, and the brightness, love, and peace that's possible on the other side.

In one man's words, a turning point was interacting with someone who treated him with kindness and respect: "It was a healing moment and I began to imagine a different life for myself."

What does it take to get out of an unhealthy relationship? What is life like after you do personal growth work and heal? Sex, dating, and relationships are complex, and here we delve into all the dynamics at play from beginning to end.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “Anything I shared about myself was eventually used against me, and sometimes in cruel ways.”
• “My life in the relationship was like being on a rollercoaster with no safety harness.”
• “My self-worth started to come back, and that’s what made me think, ‘What am I doing in this situation?’”
• “In my current relationship, I feel grounded, safe and loved. It’s a world of difference.”
• “Now life is pretty fucking great.”

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Other resources mentioned on this episode:

• National Domestic Violence hotline (includes a live chat feature, if you don't want to get on the phone yet): TheHotline
• Dear Men episode 128: Feel like you're walking on eggshells? Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder
• Dear men episode 289: Do Nice Guys attract volatile women?