Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 314 - Deconstructing Jealousy
Mar 23, 2021
After a four-year hiatus, the hosts dive deep into the nuances of jealousy, unpacking its emotional roots tied to personal insecurities. They clarify the distinction between jealousy and envy, shedding light on how these feelings can manifest differently in relationships. Special focus is given to jealousy within non-monogamous dynamics and how social media amplifies comparisons. The discussion emphasizes the importance of communication, self-reflection, and healthy coping strategies to foster vulnerability and deeper connections.
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Curvilinear Model of Jealousy
- Jealousy is most common when investment in a relationship is high, but uncertainty is also high.
- This often occurs in newer relationships or when established relationships open up.
Jealousy as an Emotion
- Jealousy is a universal human emotion and should be de-pathologized.
- Problems arise not from the feeling itself but from unhealthy reactions to it.
Roots of Jealousy
- Jealousy stems from beliefs about oneself or others, hypervigilance, and fear of uncertainty.
- Believing feelings are facts fuels jealousy, leading to a harmful cycle.